I have always loved to dance, as a child I spent my time dressing up and choreographing routines to all my favourite records, from Abba to Edwin star and flight of the bumble bees. Many a day spent in my leotard and disco glitter, closing my eyes and feeling the music, like only a child can. I never attended a dance class, something about our working class upbringing, we didn't do things like that when I was a kid.
And as an adult I continued to go where the music and dancing took me.
Then I had a difficult period in my life like we all do, after all that’s life. Completely as a result of bad decisions I had made along the way. To cut a long story short – I married the wrong man, a very difficult man and my life got tough for a long time.
In the middle of it I reached an all time low, my rock bottom. Without realising it, because life was difficult I had started drinking and partying hard.
I had a big wake up call and realised that I was the only one who could change what had happened. I got some help, sorted myself out, did some training and went on to work with 1000's 1000' s of people struggling with their bad habits and addictions.
And as if someone was looking out for me. Just as I was trying to sort myself out, very early days. I met a very nice lady on a training course and she must have been able to see things weren't great. She asked me if I liked to dance, I said yes and she told me about her local modern Jive night and I met her there that week.
I loved it, it was such fun, and everyone was so friendly. I carried on going every week doing the classes and then started going to some freestyles, I got the bug. I danced every week, met loads of new people (none of which drank or took drugs) and best of all they didn't know me, knew nothing about me. I could just turn up, dance talk to some people, have a great time and leave.
I went on to go to weekenders with my new dancing friends, it became a serious hobby. Then I went to a west coast swing class and really fell in love with that. Worked with a teacher, danced all around the world, France, America. Going to London at the weekend. Started competing and did quite well for an amateur.
I love partner dancing, it gave me exactly what I needed during an incredibly difficult time. My life continued to take some twists and turns and was very difficult for a good few years while I was dancing. But because of the dancing I had somewhere to escape, in more ways than one. My only regret is that I didn't start as a child. I will do it for the rest of my life. I can go anywhere in the world, look on line to find the nearest dance class and I can turn up, ask people to dance and have a lovely time usually only for £7.
Best bit is you cant drink and jive. No seriously you just cant do it.
If you have something in your life that you have always wanted to do, I urge you to go ty it. Don’t let your nervousness stand in your way. It could be the thing that makes a difference for you.
I have gone on to develop my own business helping others to change their bad habits and addictions.
Hopefully see you on the dancefloor.